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Apartments, personalities, and insects

Without a constant Internet - and why does "internet" autocorrect to have a capital I? - connection, twitter is a lot less attractive to me as a way to communicate online, so I may be on LJ quite a bit more for a week.

We are getting Armstrong cable internet next Thursday, which has a bandwidth cap, something I've never dealt with before. We will see what happens!

Our new apartment is really nice. Our old apartment has made us appreciate the amenities here even more: "We have a dishwasher! We have an *outgoing mailbox!* We have overhead lighting! We didn't hear rap music anytime between ten PM and five AM last night! Our neighbors actually say hello in the hall!" It's pretty cool. We also have a ton more room for stuff here than we did at the old place, simple stuff like bathroom cabinets that hold everything, and a walk-in closet in the main bedroom. I am so happy. It still feels a little unreal, like we'll have to give it back in a few days.

We got ice cream from McDonald's again in exchange for using their wireless, but I also just saw an enormous cockroach scuttle across the floor, so... Then again, our kitchen had roaches forever so...

We also found, either dead in our apartment or dead having fallen out of one of our boxes, something that we've dubbed a Death Pincher. It may possible have been an earwig with a massively oversized set of pincers, but it looked pretty alien and deadly. I hope we see no more. If we do, you guys are getting a picture.

Myers-Briggs continues to help us talk about our personality differences. I am comfortable with a plan, while my husband is comfortable being spontaneous, and I am cool with being spontaneous as long as we work out in advance how long we are planning on being spontaneous and what we spontaneously want to get accomplished, etc.

Next week is a beach trip with the Dellingers, which will be fun. I love getting to spend time with my nephew, who just hit 18 months and is on the verge of talking. He is also good at teaching me that though I still love and want kids, I am not quite ready for one yet. I just want to spend time with other people's.

Our project tonight is to hang curtains in our bedroom. Tomorrow we are going to Pittsburgh IKEA, unless other things take precedence unexpectedly.

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The movers are coming in about two hours! They will take away all of our things and whisk them off to Grove City!

And then we shall whisk ourselves!

We will arrive in GC on Friday afternoon, and our stuff arrives Saturday. We are happy to receive visitors, I think, though anybody coming before our stuff arrives may need to sit on the floor. (And arriving *while* our stuff arrives is asking to be pressganged into helping unpack.)

Email or facebook me for our new address!
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Ambitions

I am and have always been a project starter, with dozens of novels, short stories, screenplays, computer games of various sorts, comics and even animations in various stages of development hanging around, but I very rarely finish anything. My goal is to finish a project before I find and start a job.

I do have a website running with a nominally weekly journal club (review and critique of a recent medical study) and progress notes for a pharmacy-based computer game. () The scope of the game is pretty huge, so I'd like to try finishing something shorter first.

My goal is to write and sell a short story by the end of July.

Here goes!

In unrelated news, found, after cleaning out my closet, a desiccated cockroach corpse about as large as some hamsters I've owned, so add that to the list of reasons I'm glad we are moving on Thursday.

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In one week, we'll be moving/moved to Grove City.

I am, right now, most looking forward to the extra space we'll have in our larger apartment. We really, really need more, especially more bookshelves. Our closet is overflowing with books, stuffed above and behind and under the hanging clothes. After that, the shopping for a writing/organization desk, and an entertainment center or something that fulfills that role to hold our game systems and DVDs.

Then, the pantry. We have a kind of small kitchen here, with no pantry. My mom and sister, who love that kind of thing, came in when we moved in and labeled all the cabinets and shelves. "See, now there's room for all of your dishes and cookware to go up!" And we said, "That's great, but... where will we put the food?" That gave them pause. Having a pantry just means we'll have so much more room for everything else.

Then, living next door to an Aldi's and the local gaming store, and a grocery store, and a Wal-Mart, and and and... Being able to walk places will be nice, though I will miss the weather that we can walk around in.

I don't have any idea how to drive a stick shift in the snow, but I guess we'll learn.
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Rules of Debate

1. Treat the person you're debating with as if they have arrived at their conclusions rationally.
a. If they are not basing their beliefs and decisions on rational thought, stop debating with them. It's not going to work.
b. If the other person is acting as though you did not arrive at your views rationally, you can ask them to stop. If they continue to act this way, stop debating them. It's not going to work.

2. Answer questions asked of you.
a. If the question is inherently unfair - "Have you stopped beating your wife?" - you can refrain from answering until the question is rephrased.
b. If the other person does not answer a question you asked of them, you can ask them to return to the question before continuing the debate. If they continue to refuse to answer your question, stop debating them. It's not going to work.

3. Acknowledge when the other person has a point.
a. It is good etiquette to acknowledge when the other person has made a point.
b. It is poor etiquette to insist on the other person acknowledging when you have made a point; however, it may be necessary to continue the debate.

4. Establish fundamental principles in common when possible.
a. If you discover that you and the other person disagree because of disagreement on some point more fundamental than the subject of the debate, you may:
i. Attempt to shift the debate to these more fundamental points (while clearly advertising what you are doing and why).
ii. Reframe your argument to work with the other person's fundamental principles.
b. If the other person refuses to try to establish common ground with you, stop debating them. It's not going to work.

5. Acknowledge when the debate is inappropriate for the medium or the time you have to dedicate to it and disengage. This can be done without conceding a point.
a. It is poor etiquette to do this in order to avoid following rule #3.
b. It is good etiquette to offer to continue the debate at a more appropriate time or in a more appropriate medium.